I Went on a Quest for the Perfect Spanking—Here’s What I Learned
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Let me tell you a little secret:
I didn’t always love spanking.
I wanted to. I was curious about it for years.
The fantasy turned me on. The idea of surrendering to a well-placed smack while being completely in my body? Yes, please.
But the reality?
Disappointing as hell.
One partner was too timid—like he was afraid to hurt me, or maybe just didn’t know what to do with his own desire.
One tried… but his awkward, rhythm-less smacks felt more like he was shooing a fly off my ass than turning me on.
One skipped the seduction altogether and went from zero to pain-so-fast-I-was-out. Mood killed. Every time.
And don’t even get me started on the guy who thought spanking meant repeated taps with the tips of his fingers. I’ve never felt less sexy.
I started wondering… Am I asking for too much? Am I too complicated?
But then I realized: no, I’m not. I just hadn’t been spanked well—yet.
So I Did What I Always Do—I Studied It Like My Orgasm Depended On It
In my search to finally experience the kind of spanking I fantasized about, I started learning how to deliver it myself. Not just the act, but the psychology, the science, the subtle rhythms, and the emotional arc that makes it electric.
I talked to pros.
I read research.
And I practiced. Yes, on partners, but also on myself.
What I found changed everything.
In My Latest YouTube Video, I’m Teaching You What I Learned
Watch now: How to Spank Her the Right Way—Hot, Safe, and Not Awkward
Here’s what I cover in the video:
How to warm her up before your hand ever lands
Where to spank—and where not to
The best spanking positions for arousal and trust
What science says about why we crave spanking
How to read her cues so you turn her on, not off
If you’ve ever felt awkward spanking—or being spanked—this video is your game-changer.
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Go watch. Get turned on. Then get practicing.
💋
Annette
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